It is a radical shift to move through life declaring every space you are in as your space. No matter if you walk into the bakery or the yoga class, visiting a friend at their place, living in a several family building, going to a seminar or a community meeting – EVERY space is your space.
You take ownership of the care and generosity being exhibited, the carelessness showing up, the quality of intimacy, what is possible in the space, if there is Low Drama occurring, the context, the aliveness or deadness, and so on.
What happens if every space is your space?
You are responsible.
What does that mean?
If you are responsible for the spaces you are in, it means everything that is happening or not happening in the space is your responsibility. YOU created it all. You are even responsible for the level of responsibility being taken in the space. This is Radical Responsibility.
Whatever is happening in the space you find yourself in is so because you generated the circumstances for the space to happen in this particular way.
But that is not fair!
Yes.
If you rather play offended because then you can blame other people for not providing what you need and then you have a reason for revenge, the context of Radical Responsibility is definitely not for you.
In the context of Radical Responsibility you cannot be offended anymore because you created every situation exactly as it is. There is no one to blame but you. Though I recommend not to blame yourself for having such creation power. The invitation here is to celebrate! Yes! You have creation power! Responsibility leverages your creation power!
Having created where you are means that you also have the power to create any other situation you could move into. Now the distinction “Something else than this is possible right now” makes sense, doesn’t it?
What is next? The Cavitation Bridgehouse is over and I am back in my community as a new person. One space of interaction is over and the next begins. Spaces are interlinked. This means that energetic spaces are connected, and you can go to a completely different space now from the space you are in. Even if it is the same space that you presumably already know from past experiences. (Hint: It is not the same space. Hello, Evolution!)
The community I live in is still in many ways the same. Seen through the lens of Radical Responsibility it is not. At the start of the Cavitation Bridgehouse I decided to not put my precious energy and attention into changing the community to become how I want it to be. I had the assumption that this would take too much effort. At the last day of the Bridge house while driving to the airport I asked Clinton what is next to learn for me on my path in becoming an Expand the Box Trainer. He answered: “Shift into living in Radical Responsibility. Every space you are in is your space.” Okay. This community is my community. In very practical and simple ways I can be radically responsibly relating with the people and the land. I started immediately after arriving by visiting every single person in the house, and announcing that I am back because in my context it is part of the tradition that people want to know. It brings ease and joy into living and creating together when I know where you are and what you are up to. And vice versa. Then I can be with you and empower you and commit to you more.
Context is the framework in which you play in. This framework is made of agreements, distinctions and rules of engagement and thereby declaring the level of responsibility being taken in the space. If you are not aware what kind of agreements are active in your space of interaction, then you are unconsciously agreeing to whatever standard ordinary general context is offered.
You might have heard the distinction: The space determines what is possible. Yes, and before that it is the context which determines the quality of the space. Because context is the relationship of a space, a project, a gameworld to responsibility.
Let me say that again: Context is the relationship to responsibility.
I refer to responsibility as applied consciousness. Which is good news because if responsibility is consciousness in action, then your actions or inactions reflect your awareness which means you can also change your level of awareness by practicing new ways of thinking. You can practice with another level of responsibility. This gets especially interesting when people are relating, creating, living and collaborating as a couple, team, community or village.
There are several different level of responsibility: At Zero Level of Responsibility you do not take any responsibility, either because you live under the illusion that there is no such thing as responsibility and your actions have no consequences. Or you have some kind of a mental, psychological, emotional or physical derogation which does not allow you to take any responsibility. It means that other people need to decide almost everything for you.
In Child Level of Responsibility you live as though you are being on the receiving end of life, consuming and taking with giving very litte or nothing back to the people or spaces who feed you. Things happen to you and you blame others or even manipulate them into taking care of your needs. You make a mess with no intention of cleaning it up because you assume someone else will be doing it for you. “We should change this” or “Someone ought to take care here” are typical sentences when you wait around for others to take responsibility.
When you are interacting at Adult Level of Responsibility you are a fair and just player. What you take you also give back. The messes you make you also clean up. When you initiate a project you also take care of it. You fulfill your part of the deal and you can take care of yourself. No longer you are waiting around for other people to change to get what you want.
As soon as you practice in a Higher Level of Responsibility you clean up messes that you did not cause yourself. Yes, you are getting this, now we enter unfair domains of responsibility! Why would people do that? Consider the ecstasy of being moved by forces greater than yourself and creating beyond your own behalf, your own circle, your own business! Then it is not a burden or another thing on your To-Do-List but rather a choice when I walk down my town and pick up the trash and maybe even invite other people to a village cleanup. You want everyone to benefit from a cleaner town, a better future, not just yourself.
As Vera Franco states in her delightful Article 6 Levels of Responsibility states: “Responsibility is a simple expression of your Love in the world. Responsibility is an authentic expression of your natural generosity.”
In Radical Level of Responsibility there is no blame. Every space is your space. You take responsibility for the level of responsibility being taken in the space. How does that look like? In Adult Level of Responsibility you take care of your 5 Body impulses to the degree that you are healthy and well. In Higher Level of Responsibility you naturally connect the impulses of your 5 Bodies with the well-being of all the people around you. In Radical Responsibility your impulses carry seeds for healing and transformation on a cultural and global scale.
You inhabit new territories of thinking and interacting with the world for the benefit of future generations to come. This means that you constantly practice collaborative communication and co-creation with others for Winning Happening. Your life is dedicated to radically empowering each other, you do not hold back when you notice something that would benefit your team or their team, you share your discoveries and you invent new ways of being together because you have no time for Low Drama. Experimenting and practice is your home while you are connected to infinite resources and possibility. Every space is your space. You created it exactly as it is and you have the power to change the space at any given moment.