Context In Action
Week 6 and out of the Cavitation Bridgehouse
15 January 2025, 9 p. m.: A ferry leaves Chania on the island of Crete and heads for Athens. On board is a newly minted nomad, a PM trainer and spaceholder for Archiarchy - eager to make new discoveries.... I leave the Cavitation Bridgehouse behind me, only physically. In my heart, I carry the Context of Radical Responsibility and the Discoveries of the Bridgehouse with me.
The six weeks at Bridgehouse have ‘made me’ a different person. There is nothing left to remind me of the woman who – even if she didn't want to admit it – still had the emotional fear in her bones that she might take a wrong step (and get punished for that).
Behind me lies an identity shift from a woman who held back from saying what she thinks or what she wants, to a Woman who interrupts and adds what she has to say, regardless of whether it's ‘meaningful’ or not. Good looking is over! Welcome to the team ‘looking bad’, that is how we called ourselves at the Bridghouse. This "Woman, writing here to you, says what she perceives, feels and sees – what she looks like, she no longer cares about.
What a relief. My new self dances through life.
How is that possible? The game changer is a space anchored in Radical Responsibility. A space in which people are so committed and accountable to each other that they don't play any survival games with each other, such as belittling or excluding themselves. I have never experienced a space like this before, where there was no Low Drama at all amongst each other. Even when a member fell back into old emotional patterns, they were held by a web of Love and Clarity. No way for Gremlin loopholes. Everything was put on the table. In order for such togetherness and co-creation to be possible at all, various conditions are required for living together like this in a Bridgehouse:
1) All persons must be able to distinguish clearly between Box and Being.
If this distinction does not live in you, there is a very high risk that you will believe your own Box stories and Gremlin will instigate low drama. The consequences of this can be: isolation in the group, wanting to be right, fear of showing oneself and connecting, attacking the context or wanting to water it down, putting fabric softener in agreements, lying and denying responsibility. This is no fun. Maybe you would like to apply this requirement to your own Bridgehouse. I will repeat myself again because it is so important: if someone cannot distinguish between Box and Being and believes the emotional fear, then Possibility Management does not work! Possibility Management is a playground for adults, not for ‘hurt children’, ‘controlling parent-egos’ or unconscious Gremlin games.
2) When you discover an old decision, consciously make a new one.
You can do as many Emotional Healing Processes (EHP) as you want, if you don't let go of your old decision. Old wounds and stories are so yummy for your Gremlin. So it likes to forget that it needs a new decision and instead likes to stick to the known and take you back to your EHP again and again, just to feel the intensity once more and revel in the suffering. These old stories make you someone 'special'. Gremlin likes to be special! So why should he let go? In a Bridgehouse, your old stories will not only get you nowhere, but will put you in the outside position: ‘That's just how I am - I'm different from you.’ Ouch, you've successfully pulled yourself out of co-creation and your survival wins.
Do not use your wounds to feed your Gremlin, use your wounds to feed your Transformation. Which wolf do you want to feed? Which fire do you want to stoke? EXPERIMENT: Do the SPARK 217 to identify your biggest wounds of your life and detach from your victim stories and de-wound yourself by following the Experiments of the SPARK.
De-wounding yourself is magic in action. Over the years, I have developed enough of a gap not to take my Box impulses and Gremlin resistances seriously and to let go of them at the same time. And I make new decisions immediately the moment I encounter something that is not serving me and the space. It doesn't always have to be an EHP. It doesn't even have to come to an emotional reaction. Box recognised, Gremlin revealed, new decision! Do over! Next impulse…
Since I've been on the road, I've been letting myself be guided from one impulse to the next. Most of the time, I have my backpack with my laptop on my back so that I can sit down anytime the muse kisses me to write something down or call someone. And so it happens that today I discovered a completely empty lounge, where I have been sitting for several hours, planning Trainings for my time in New Zealand and when I am ‘back’ in the DACH region. I answer messages and call people, freely and again and again, according to the impulse ‘What's next?’. My fingers are writing this article, not my head - curious, which words come out next.
One more thing became very clear to me in the Bridgehouse: I don't just want to be connected online with other women from my Possibility Management village. I want to live with them. This does not exclude men. But what I long for very much is this sisterhood, as I already experience it so much today - just not physically, yet.. A strong desire has grown in me at Bridgehouse – I not only want to work with other women, but also live with them. Either in the next Bridgehouse or in the Archan Invention Center.
If you want to hear more about my desires and the conversation with my sisters of Women of Earth, how we discover and develop a movement together, then I recommend the first Women of Earth Round Table, as it took place in the Bridgehouse. And contact me, if you are one of these Women, who have the same longing as I have. Like Christina Beberdick from the Netherlands, who invited me promptly after listening to the Round Table recording.
Love, and lots of greetings from Thessaloniki,
Lisa
www.lisaommert.com
